Steve,
To expand upon Georges answer, a nearby club with a member who will help you would probably be easier than a Professional. They are not all as helpful or free with their time and advice as George.
Stratford upon Avon Club might be closest. Look at the AWGB Website
http://www.awgb.co.uk/club-map/for a list of clubs.
But to answer your questions,
Question 1: Why has the spindle gouge been ground with the same angle from wing to wing? All my reading indicates this is unusual.
No it shouldent and yes it is unusual.
Question 2: Would re-grinding it as it is be OK?
Yes it would.
As advice, Grind the gouge upside down, so you are grinding the wings, to achieve the fingernail shape you want, then turn it right way around and grind the bevel to meet the shape you've created.
Going back to my first statement, a local amateur with a grinding jig would help you perfect the shape, practice will teach you to maintain it.