Hi Haggy,
There are many choices for oak.
If you are going to scortch it do it hard and don't tickle it with the flame. Then brush out with a bronze or stainless steel brush (the £1 type shops sell packs of them). The best finish I've found to seal it is Hard wax oil.
To bring out the grain without burning, put a rotary wire brush in a drill or the lathe and run it along the grain, it will quickly remove the softer part of the annual growth.
You have a laser engraver, I'm jealous already.